Stop apologizing, you wimp.

It’s time to eliminate “sorry” from your repertoire. Not only does it make you seem like a total wimp, it’s terribly unprofessional. I’m looking at you, ladies.

There have been scientific studies on this topic which found that female participants apologized more in their daily lives than male participants. This is all too common, especially at work. Women constantly start a discussion by saying “Sorry this might be a stupid question….”

What’s up with that, ladies? Why do we feel the urge to apologize for our very existence? Let’s stop this madness and assert ourselves, please.

Muse writer Angeline Evans chimed in on the topic on why such behavior is problematic especially in the workplace.

Picking and choosing what missteps are worthy of an apology demonstrates your grasp (or lack) of professional judgment,” she says. “If you offer the same effusive apology for not bringing a notepad to a meeting as you do for missing an important deadline, you’re essentially putting the two gaffes on the same level, though they’re not even close.

Ugh. I couldn’t agree more and yet it’s so hard to stop the nasty habit.

Where to Start

I like to stay solution-oriented which is why I appreciated The Everygirl’s Lyndsay Rush’s suggestions in her piece Stop Apologizing: We’re Ending the Harmful Habit who shared some tips weaning yourself away from apology addiction. To summarize, here’s your game plan:

4 Steps for Eliminating “Sorry”

  1. Spend a day keeping track of your sorries. (Or, just take mental notes over a period of time… maybe a week.)
  2. Ask yourself what you really want to express.
  3. Know when a real apology is warranted (which is hardly ever)
  4. Have some replacement terms handy

It’s nice to have an arsenal of word tracks to choose from to eliminate such a long-standing habit. I’m convinced you can get rid of “sorry” altogether, no matter the circumstance. Even when an apology is truly warranted (we’re all human, right?), why not say “I apologize” instead of whining “sorry” to your offended party?

For me, I’ve found that the best way to replace “sorry” is to flip the situation on its head with a simple “thank you.” For example, when I know someone has been waiting a long time for an email response from me, instead of beginning a reply email with “Sorry it took me so long to get back to you,” I’ll start by saying “Thank you for your patience.”

Without further ado, other than “thank you,” here are 19 other ways to stop being such a wimp. May you find strength and the will to resist “sorry” from your repertoire from this day forward. 

20 Phrases to Replace Saying “Sorry”

  1. It’s unfortunate that…
  2. Unfortunately…
  3. It’s too bad that…
  4. I’d like to apologize…
  5. Excuse me…
  6. Pardon me…
  7. How sad for you…
  8. I sympathize with your frustration…
  9. What a shame that…
  10. Forgive my oversight…
  11. I regret that…
  12. This situation fills me with regret…
  13. Yes, absolutely…
  14. I must admit that…
  15. It was not my intent…
  16. Actually, no…
  17. Thank you for your patience…
  18. How sad for you that (this) happened…
  19. I am unhappy about the inconvenience you’ve been caused
  20. This situation has filled me with regret…

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Mani

Mani

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Shameless‘ Frank Gallagher was my father… but we never let him sleep outside in the snow.

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